While Zyle is having a blast eating dried chicken leg, it’s time to put my thoughts on the paper.
I have never asked if other dog owners do the same (do you?), but I am constantly putting myself in my dog’s shoes.
Yes, I know I am not a dog, and humans usually have different perception of the world around us. But I trust my professional background in dog training. It protects me from misunderstandings. Have you ever tried to look through your dog’s eyes?
So today I had this moment. As a result of it, completely unexpectedly, I promised myself: “I will put even more effort to make Zyle understand that she is a great dog”.
The truth is, I wanted to hear somebody saying the same promise for me. I wanted to be ensured that my beloved ones value things I do for them. And the efforts I do to make them happy are not overlooked. Because it is very hard to smile when you feel like a looser.
Did you notice, how critical thinking is valued these days? We have learnt to pay attention and notice everything that does not fit into the perfect world: perfect presentation, perfect offer, perfect date, perfect vacation, perfect dog.
While our minds are busy searching for flaws, we miss other things. Things, that are the results of somebody’s efforts. Maybe these efforts are the best other human being (or dog) can offer us right now.
“Do efforts mean something, if the result is not good enough?”, – a friend of mine asked me today. He wanted to know if his B2B client should pay him for the legal services, which did not lead to the desired outcome. Nevertheless, it cost a lot of time for my friend. “It depends”, – I responded.
But in personal relationships the answer is clear – it matters. If a human or a dog made an effort, trying to make you feel happy – thank him.
Say “thank you”, give a hug or make a cup of coffee for a human friend; give a treat, play a game or say the same “thank you” for a canine friend.
Not because of the well known behavioral rule “what is rewarded shall be repeated”. Because the things you ignore, will go away. If you’ll ignore the efforts, they will go away. Improvement will be impossible, and your imagined perfection will be unachievable.
If a critical word accidentally slipped from your mouth – praise ten times to make the effect of the critique go away.
Then watch how humans and dogs next to you are blooming, glowing and looking very happy. Because they feel like they are the best in the whole world.